Growing up I was never given a “sex talk” by my mother, who was my only parent and example of what a woman should be like. I watched her float in and out of unsuccessful marriages and relationships. I even caught her going down on some random guy once. That was awkward.

Naturally I was curious about sex. It was glamourized on TV and in magazines.  I was hormonal and I wanted to know what I was missing.

I lost my virginity at 14 to a classmate, my “boyfriend” at the time. He was very sweet but ill-equipped to pleasure a woman, because he was a 14 year old boy. Losing my virginity lead to a lot of sexual experimentation at a young age. My only real regret is having so much bad sex. If someone had told me I could have tons of bad sex at a young age or wait until I was older to relish in great sex (and larger penises), I might have waited.

The event of losing my virginity has no effect on my life today. However, I wish my mother had taught me about relationships, sex, and self worth. I made a lot of choices that many may think are the wrong choices but those choices paved my way to becoming the woman I am today. Today I have a healthy, monogamous, and extremely pleasurable relationship.