Virginity… just what did that mean to a gay guy in the early 80s? Hell if I knew what the rules were at that time – but I can say that I had dabbled in both pools for a couple years – you know the whole ‘experimenting’ trying to find myself all the cliche statements – we all have heard them.  P.S.  I never went into the deep end of either pool if you know what I mean until that one special night.

I lost my virginity the first time I looked another man in the eyes when we reached the climax of our experience and slowly kissed each other to sleep.  It was great – I wanted more – I felt lucky to have a great awakening of my sexual self.  The puzzle was complete.  I had confidence in my future and took pride in who I am.